How to grieve


When we think about grief we think about someone close no longer being with us.  And that’s obviously when many of us have experienced grief ourselves.  However, grief can be so much more…. a grief reaction can be experienced when we are made redundant, a re-organisation at work, financial changes, when our children are born, and when our children leave home.  All of these life changes mean that our lives are never the same again – we look to adapt and find a ‘new normal’.  We have lost something important and we are learning to adapt and live without it.  That can come with overwhelm and feelings that we might be ashamed of.

When we grieve and how we grieve are specific to us.  No one will experience grief in the same way.  Yes, there will be similarities…. but our own individual circumstances will affect the grieving process. In therapy, this is accounted for to ensure your specific needs are met.  Therapy provides a space for you to express your feelings without judgement that this ‘should’ be done in a certain way.

Self-care is always important (in my mind)! And when we are grieving I believe this is essential.  Self-care can come in all shapes and sizes, and again what supports you may be different to others.  And that is OK…. Self-care could be physical to help with aches, sleep issues, or changes in appetite; cognitive to help with concentration; emotional to help with numbness or overwhelm; spiritual to help with faith or worries around life and death; and social to help loneliness and relationships.

I think the main thing I’d want you to take away from reading this is that there is no shame in seeking help and support for yourself or for/with someone else.  In fact, I would go as far as to say you are incredibly brave.

If you’d like to read some more then take a look at this article, and get in touch to talk through how I can support you or help you find the support you need.